Back to the sand pit

On Monday E got to go to the secret playroom for children
Much much later he came down to call me
come see mom, come see what I have made
to be escorted back to a sandbox
where the recurring theme was toys getting stuck

stuck under things
stuck inside things
but all of them had to be rescued

It was very interesting to see

and then yesterday he went through a serious separation issue
where he could not do anything if he could not see me
when I asked him what was wrong, he said
I am soo scared you will send me away again, I want to see you all the time

It was very hard taking him to his dad this morning

Parenting in the 'after' life

Parenting in itself is a challenge. It becomes a grueling test of emotional endurance when it is done from two separate homes. More so if the parents are respectful to one another and their child. The continuous confrontation with the failure of your marriage taking centre stage as you struggle together to decide the best way forward for your child. The child that is the fruit of a passion and a future once shared. It is hard severing those ties that bind; it is hard to walk separate roads together.

Together we sat this morning at the child psychologist, listening to her and one another as we discussed our experiences with Elrich. A kid that goes from an independent, confident thinker to an anxious vulnerable little boy in less time than it takes you to say his name. We will start with play therapy on Monday, for four weeks, after which we will have a feedback and way forward session. In the mean time we just acknowledge his emotions, journal his behavior and continue to love and support him in our own special ways.